as I wrote, thanks for your contribution and your time.
The idea was this, try to understood where I did wrong and why people like or using mental ray. Why is so strange if agree with some statement and share a negative felling with others? Facing mental ray is intimidating and time consuming, but I stress my previous sentence with the note "I have not the experience", so I cannot fully judge it. I retired after a "big" tentative (first time I struggle with mental ray for three months, without arriving to a satisfaction result for my need), now I have a entire month free for testing it and want try it again, the reason, as I said, was because I have just purchased it, want doing all inside softimage and want understood how and why many expert users love it (and how obtain this great result). Cycles and modo pleased me, I think they are good, but sometime I fell like need a bit more control, in this way I will understood if I really need it or not.So far it seems that you like when people give you advance and where to find better information on how to learn Mental Ray, but to me, it feels like you keep holding on/agreeing to the statements of Mental Ray being "bad", basically to reaffirm your own feelings about.
From the above statements, seems impossible learn softimage in a month, but I'm not totally new to it, so want try again. Despite the new rendering actual disposable, mental ray continue to be used in many big production, must be a reason. Whit this don't mean is a no brain choice (is used for many factors, not less important the presence of many great artist used to it)
Thanks Maximun, I will read with interest the link you suggested and also will read Elemental Ray blog.